Saturday, January 24, 2009

A Quickie on Sexuality

I was recently approached by a man who I believe to be gay. I often find myself wondering why he doesn’t know he is gay or why he’s wasting his time trying to convince me he is not. Sexuality FINALLY came up in a conversation and he denied it repeatedly. The same guy who I believe is gay, had the nerve to call somebody else suspect. Delusions? Maybe. He did tell me he had been married before. To which I replied, “So what? Gay dudes have sex with females all the time.” He didn’t have an argument for that. He was just adamant that HE didn’t get down like that. So I took a little time to explain to him how I feel about the subject. You don’t have to agree with me. I’m just going to tell you how I feel...what SYM believes. This may not be a “light” moment for you and that’s fine. That’s why I’m the writer and you’re the reader.

I told him that your sexuality is NOT defined by sexual acts. You do not become straight by sleeping with someone of the opposite sex. Is a female who wants to wait until marriage not straight because she has yet to have sex with a man? Is she just on the verge of straight? Is a man not gay simply because he hasn’t had sex with a man? Is he only kind of gay? Not all the way, just a little gay? I don’t care who you are having sex with, if you’re gay, you’re gay! You can hide behind what you do in the bed, car, kitchen or backyard as long as you like, but I doubt what you do changes your desires. There’s no fooling SYM! Well maybe, but not when you’re wearing lip gloss and animal print thongs. SM